DEFENSIVENESS 
Are you one of those persons who have trouble dealing with “constructive criticism”, especially if it comes from people who you love the most? Yes most of us go on the defensive even if we are supposed to be the “enlightened ones”.
We shut down and often build walls between ourselves and our friends and family. We just turn deaf to the signals coming in and our anger makes us see red. We also find it difficult to admit that we have short comings. Why? You may ask. It seems easier to keep cool with people we don’t know. It becomes harder when they are close to us. The closer they get, the less comfortable it is for us.
Our whole lives are spent pretending to be the real us, hiding behind masks and fake personalities. The person who is close to us is the one who often sees us without those “masks”, without the “make up”. This leaves us exposed and vulnerable so we go on the defensive.
So when you get into a situation where you have to endure “constructive criticism”, take a moment, breathe deeply, count to ten and make an effort to respond instead of react. Recognise it as an opportunity-------An opportunity for growth. See your loved one as a messenger of truth. The truth that will help you grow. The truth that will set you free.
Dr Ken Onu is the CEO and founder of Attract Freedom.
He is an Eye Doctor with a vision to eradicate possibility blindness®
He is a keen speaker, communicator, entrepreneur and author. Click here to Like us on Facebook
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