Acceptance

  All of us, unconsciously, spend a lot of time and effort trying to avoid feeling or realizing our negative emotions. What a waste of time and energy! Instead, if we would just spend a little time creating in ourselves an awareness of our focus of attention, it would be easier to let go of that negative emotion and move on.

Don’t get me wrong; I’m not saying you should be more actively aware of negative feelings, nor am I saying that you should rid yourselves of them. In trying not to feel or express certain feelings, you only waste precious time and add more mental stress to yourself.

Try this strategy instead: analyze your feeling of envy, doubt, pride, or whatever, and then accept it. There is no need to judge yourself. Just accept such feelings as part of your psyche and move on. Try saying, “oh, that’s just my envy talking.” Automatically, that feeling of envy will dissipate. But if you allow it a place in your mind, you are giving it undue importance, and it will only grow and fester, and one day it will rise to the surface stronger than ever.

So much energy is spent in trying to avoid feeling negative emotions or in trying to suppress them. But the key is to just let those feelings in, acknowledge them and then disregard them. We are wiser for the awareness of ourselves that they have created in us, and so we should be thankful to them too. But do not allow such feelings room to stay. Just let them flit through your body, like a thought passing through your mind.

To paraphrase Shakespeare, when we are true to ourselves, there can be no doubt that we will be true to our fellow men too.

So just accept who you are, negative feelings and all. There is no need to feel guilty or ashamed, we are who we are. Try it and you will feel for yourself a sort of release, a healing even, and a desire to move on.

I wish you well

Dr Ken

Dr Ken Onu is the CEO and founder of Attract Freedom.

He is an Eye Doctor with a vision to eradicate possibility blindness®

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