How many of us are so busy with jobs and chores that we forget to take the time to stay in touch with our family? We might keep mentally reminding ourselves to phone our mum or sister, but its just so easy to forget such seemingly mundane things in the hustle and bustle of our lives. Unless we are consciously aware of whom we are forgetting, some people will just fade into the background of our lives and stay there.
So how do you show your family you care about them? Start with something simple…just tell them. Tell them how much they mean to you. It sounds simple enough and yet is so hard for some people to actually do.
A surprise visit is another simple way to show you care about them and that you are thinking of them. Just drop in unexpectedly (provided you are on good enough terms with them for that to be welcome) and see their faces light up with joy.
Or, if you can’t visit, at least give them a call. Make it a habit, in fact. After a while, you will start to feel as if you are missing something if you don’t call them. All these actions hold good for family as well as friends.
For your more immediate family (as in, the people you live with – your spouse and kids), you need to make them feel special all the time. Just one text message can brighten up your spouse’s day immensely. It might sound cheesy, but it makes a world of difference. And the best part is, it costs next to nothing (in terms of money as well as time).
You could buy your wife flowers for no reason other than to say she’s special and you love her. Its more meaningful and delightful when its unexpected. And don’t forget to keep your romance alive. Flirt with each other. How long you’ve been married is irrelevant; what matters is keeping that old flame burning.
What about your kids? Buying them toys and gifts might (according to you) show you love them, but how do you show that you like them? Yes, there is a difference between the two. For younger children, their wants are simple. All you have to do is spend half an hour with them – playing with them or just sitting and watching TV together. With older children, they might just want to be left alone, but the fact that you are trying makes a difference and they will recognize that effort. Sometimes, children go through periods where they prefer one parent to another. So when it comes to your turn, make sure you utilize that time wisely. Spend some time alone with them, just talking or listening.
Finally, try to do something together as a family that is out of the normal routine. A dinner or a movie might be all it takes for them to feel that they are special to you and that you genuinely care. Everyone loves surprises, after all. And possibly the easiest and best way you can keep your family close-knit is by having one meal together. Dinner usually works best. When you all sit down together at the end of the day (sometimes the only time during the day that you are all seeing each other), it’s the perfect time to catch up on each other’s lives and to show your interest in what’s happening to them.
Of course, everyone has different methods of showing they care. How do you connect with your family? Share your tips and suggestions with us by leaving a comment here.
I wish you well
Dr., Ken
Dr Ken Onu is the CEO and founder of Attract Freedom.
He is an Eye Doctor with a vision to eradicate possibility blindness®
He is a keen speaker, communicator, entrepreneur and author. For Free Videos, pdf's, audios, insights, ideas and free personal development courses and sessions =>http://www.attractfreedom.com
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